tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37491865.post116329523675122619..comments2023-10-06T10:17:06.737-04:00Comments on Thou and Thou Only: Our Turbulent Engagement, Supplemental 2Harmonyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15105846442509828835noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37491865.post-78405125500137425532007-07-04T13:36:00.000-04:002007-07-04T13:36:00.000-04:00It's great to get your side of the story as well. ...It's great to get your side of the story as well. Those verses are the verses that I've been hearing as well. I've never understood the passage, "I have not come to bring peace, but a sword... father will turn against son, mother against daughter..." until now. We are trying to do what is righteous in the eyes of God, but at the same time having to choose between God's will and our parents' will. At the moment we're in the eye of the storm. We've told our parents that we're going through with the marriage. His mother is very supportive, but my parents unfortunately are not.pivotpivothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04599739750583757831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37491865.post-1165276251812898942006-12-04T18:50:00.000-05:002006-12-04T18:50:00.000-05:00I think you're right about the culture clash. It ...I think you're right about the culture clash. It was also a clash of differing assumptions that had been unspoken, and that's always hard. I also think it was more than two cultures clashing.<BR/>You have his parents, you have your friends and family, and then there's some conflict because of trying to understand and live a biblical culture.<BR/>If you hadn't been trying for that third culture, you'd not have been so conflicted about defying his parents.<BR/>Which isn't to say that you were wrong, I just mean to say, "Wow. Y'all were in a hard and complicated place!"<BR/><BR/>I think it's good to understand that because we live in a sinful and sin spoiled world, the right thing won't always be obvious or painless or perfect, and you two have a head start on that.;-)<BR/><BR/>And sometimes the chain of mistakes gets so long that the BEST thing is not even possible any longer. <BR/>I knew another couple where both parents believed in courtship. the young man aways planned on being a missionary and had a missionary church to work with already lined up in another country. The parents all knew that. They allowed those young people to court, and then, when they were somewhat intertwined, dropped this bomb- they didn't want their daughter to go to another country, so either the young man end the relationship or he had to change his plans to be a missionary.<BR/><BR/>I know it tore him apart, but since the daughter would not defy her parents, he ended the relationship because he had known all his life that he was to be a missionary. Ugly situation, and entirely the responsibility of these parents, whom I believe defrauded both their daughter and the young man.<BR/>There was no easy way to handle that, no one answer that was THE right response to the parents, and as painless as possible a response of the young people. I think she should have left her parents and joined the man they had already blessed.<BR/><BR/>It sounds like you both did the best you could under the circumstances, and I pray that things will continue to improve for all of you. It's hard for parents to let go sometimes, and it's got to be hard to still be discovering, this late, how much changing your country changes your future expectations.Headmistress, zookeeperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14071449326819510530noreply@blogger.com