No Interracial Hiccups Yet

In our approximately 3.5 years of being together, we have not yet experienced any outside animosity or disapproval for being an interracial couple. I say "outside" because I think my mom had some issues with it before we were married. If she still does have issues, she keeps her mouth shut, because I haven't heard so much of an interracial peep out of her since wedding planning had begun.

In fact, I personally am not aware that I have experienced any racial or ethnocentric prejudice in a long time. I don't even remember the last time something like that happened. Maybe it's a sign of the times. No one's ever talked extra slow to me because they saw that I was Asian. Probably because the minute I started talking, they realized I was capable of coherent conversation in standard American accented English.

I haven't experienced any interracial hiccups with Harmony's family, to my knowledge. Everyone's been perfectly nice and hospitable. I don't believe Harmony has experienced any prejudice from my family. However, you can bet that if Harmony were black, there would've been a bit more of a fight from my family. My apologies to any black readers (or non-black readers attached to a black person), but in Korea (and probably Asia in general) there is a general stereotype that black people are thugs and GaNgStAs (yo). It's quite wrong of them to think that, so now that you know that, go prove it wrong.

I personally still am getting used to the idea of us being married now. This is not made any easier by the fact that we look nothing like each other. I would bet that most of us are used to seeing married people who resemble each other. Harmony and I look alike in that we are generally part of the animal kingdom, and of the genus and species Homo sapien. Harmony gets a sunburn if she thinks about sunlight, and I get rosy cheeks if I think about alcohol. I wonder if our children will grow up thinking that it's a bit strange that other people's parents look like each other?

Here in the conservative/traditional South, who knows how many people have thought disapproving thoughts and have kept their mouths shut. I guess it's not a surprise that no one has spoke out to us strangers in public, since that's generally not something that regular people do. I can't recall us being treated any differently because of our mixing.

And now I've done it. You know, like when someone brags about having never broken a bone, he'll probably break one the next day. Let's hope that after writing about this, I won't be lynched by local white folk for marrying one of their number.

I know there are at least a couple of interracial married couples who read here. Have you had any bad experiences? And any general advice for a young interracial married couple?