Time With "The Guys," continued

I had written a comment to put on Time With "The Guys", but it got really long, so I decided to make it into a continuation post. So here it is.

First, thanks to everyone for your comments. I have enjoyed reading them.

At this point in my life, I don't feel like I have the time, need, or inclination to have other guy friends (I know the time factor is not going to get any better). I define "guy friends" as ones whom I spend regular time with, and not with my wife. In other words, they are non-existent right now.

The times that I've visited with Mr. Best Man have usually been him coming over to our house, or us going over there. Only once have I gone over to his apartment by myself, and that was only because he requested "just me" time (no he's not gay or anything), just needed/needs the old friend, I guess.

There are some times where our interests might diverge enough that I wouldn't feel bad about leaving Harmony behind. Case in point: I am a big fan of the X-Files TV show, and there's a new movie coming out soon. However, Harmony doesn't really like XF at all, so I might be either 1) waiting for DVD, or 2) going with aforementioned Mr. Best Man. Another example is the pig-pickin' our church is going to be having on Labor Day, prompted by none other than your's truly (more on that in a future post). Anyways, there will be be lots of digging, grunting, sunlight, and dead pig in preparation of the barbecue. Harmony will probably either stay home or go inside and visit with the preacher's wife (it's a parsonage, sort of).

Ever since I've been with Harmony, I notice that my introvert side has come out much more. I used to be much more wild and outgoing and didn't really like being by myself (not that I am "by myself" much these days). Now I am quite content to stay home with family. I would guess that part of it is because I am working full-time now and have nowhere near as much free time as I did when I was in school. Perhaps I'm more extroverted when I have tons of free time, and introverted when I have precious little.

I enjoy not having plans in the evenings. I enjoy sitting around the house with Harmony, even if we are not directly interacting the whole entire time. This way, if an interesting thought, topic, or question pops into either of our minds, we are right there to discuss.

Of course, none of this means that we don't enjoy spending time with other people. Those other people happen to be other families from church who have similar inclinations as us. I can think of about four families at church who either we or just Harmony has spent time with. These people are families with young children, with more traditional views on family (usually meaning stay-at-home mom), and coincidentally, all of them either do, have, or will homeschool. In fact, we'd like to spend more time with these friends, but life circumstances tend to get in the way sometimes.