Why are men so insensitive to women's needs today? [...]From Dr Dobson Answers Your Questions, pages 339-341. Discuss. :-)
[...] I doubt if men have ever responded as women preferred. Did the farmer of a century ago come in from the fields and say, "Tell me how it went with the kids today"? [...] What has changed is the relationship between women! A century ago women cooked together, canned together, washed clothes at the creek together, prayed together, went through menopause together, and grew old together. [...] Alas, the situation is very different today. The extended family has disappeared, depriving the wife of that source of security and fellowship. Her mother lives in New Jersey and her sister in Texas. Furthermore, American family move every three or four years, preventing any long-term friendships from developing among neighbors. And there's another factor that is seldom admitted: American women tend to be economically competitive and suspicious of one another. Many would not even consider inviting a group of friends to the house until it was repainted, refurnished, or redecorated.
What effect does this breakdown in the relationship between women have on marriages?
[...] Depriving a woman of all meaningful emotional support from outside the home puts enormous pressure on the husband-wife relationship. The man becomes her primary source of conversation, ventilation, fellowship, and love. But she's not his only responsibility. He is faced with great pressure, both internal and external, in his job. [...] By the time he gets home at night, he has little left with which to prop up his lonely wife...even if he understands her.