Monday, March 05, 2007

My husband, the good provider

Something JM and I noticed a long time ago was that out of all our male friends, the only ones who were getting married were the ones who were going to be good providers. Note that I didn't say all of them had great jobs and were making tons of money. For example: my sister's fiance is currently dirt poor... but that is because he is getting his PhD in mathematics (and is probably going to be the best higher level math professor seen in quite a few years). Another one of my friends married a man who doesn't have a college degree, but is willing to work overtime and weird hours and works *hard* -- and his bosses notice this. Or my father, a few years back, lost his job less than a week before September 11, 2001. He decided that while he was out of work, his job would be to find a job. He would spend 40 hours a week in his job hunt.

You see, what matters most is the work ethic and the sense of responsibility a man feels to his family.

Something we noticed that goes along with this is that the guys we knew in college who graduated and didn't go looking for a job, or who left their degree unfinished and now don't pay bills at their apartment, are the ones who are not looking to be married anytime soon. Why is this?

Well, I should think it would be obvious: God made men to be providers, and women (even the feminists) know this deep down. Women want to marry a man who will provide for them.

So with all this in mind, it should be no surprise to anyone that I married a man who is a very good provider. And I intend to brag about him just a bit. :-)

Last week JM's boss called him in for a meeting to let him know that he would be getting a raise in March. This is not unusual -- everyone in the company except the worst employees get a raise every year. But that wasn't all his boss wanted to say. He went on to tell JM that as long as he (the boss) had been at the company, he had never given a first-level employee such a high rating on the yearly performance review, and that if it were up to him, JM would be getting a promotion in May -- even though he's not technically eligible for one until a year from May.

EDIT from JunkMale: I am eligible for what is unofficially known as an "early promotion." Managers are given leeway to deem employees worthy of early promotions on a case-by-case basis (mine has). So he would not be doing anything illegal by putting me up for promotion a year early.

It's not the money -- we were managing fine without the raise and would have gone on just fine without it -- but I'm about to burst, I'm so proud of him. :-D He's such a good worker, a good provider, a good husband... and I'm so lucky to be married to him.

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